Years ago, after my marriage failed and I was raising my four children on my own, I went to sleep, exhausted. Hours later, something roused me from my dreams. I sat up, wiping the sleep from my eyes. My friend Kenny sat on the edge of the bed, smiling. To say I was surprised was an understatement for Kenny had passed away seven years earlier.
“I can’t go with you. The children need me,” I said, confused by his presence.
“I’m not here for you. I’m here because God wants me to give you a message,” he explained. “God wants you to stop worrying so much. Everything will be okay.”
I was underwhelmed by the message. Why not the cure for cancer? Why just a simple message about worry? I didn’t know then just how powerful the message was.
I asked Kenny if I could touch him. He lifted his hand. We clasped our fingers together. Oh, the touch of my friend again broke my heart open!
I don’t recall how I fell back to sleep. All I remember of that night twenty-five years ago is Kenny’s visit, in vivid detail. Was it just a dream or had he really come from the other side? I don’t think it mattered; the message was what mattered.
Over the years, I’ve learned how powerful it is for us to abandon our worries. When we do, our nervous system settles down into a response called the ventral vagal state. It is there where all the good things happen in our body, mind, and spirit. It is there where we can love one another, and quite possibly, find the cure for cancer.
Kenny passed God’s message on to me. I am passing it on to you. Stop worrying so much. Everything is going to be okay.